It is interesting reading about evaluating by contrasting behavior towards you with behavior towards others, because that is something I teach my kids and do myself on a regular basis – you learn a lot by seeing how people behave towards those they don’t need to be nice to!

Really great article – and I’m very happy you’ve had success. I’m a sucker for happy endings

Kat & I also met online, via Match. She lived in Lubbock at the time, and after her driving down here for meetings for a few months, she moved down here. We broke most of the rules, too, I think. But, over a year now and still no problems at all – can’t beat that.

The more you do the more you start to get the hang of how to manage these meets efficiently.

It sounds rather cold but in the end online dating is a big numbers game imho.

I’ll be sure to use Wayne as a sounding board, if I ever bother to venture back into the on-line dating world.. More inclined to give up these days

As for the kiss, it is critical in Europe and Australia as it is a common greeting between women and men that have any sort of relationship including business.. Obviously there is a comfortability and aquaintance perspective but very uncommon not to do a cheek kiss.. If it is the first time then it signals the intent of the male’s relationship in that female’s life. Also very critical.. If the female doesn’t like it, its obvious and time to move on..

Air kisses don’t happen.. Seemingly insulting..

Was talking to the GF last night and she mentioned she knew someone that was on RSVP.COM.AU and had already been scammed by a Nigerian for $2k and still hadn’t figured it out.. Was still in contact!!

I did the whole online thing about about a year – and learned a lot about what works for profiles.

You can email me directly through the site.

I just need your profile name and the site you’re on (eHarmony is not viewable so I can’t offer much advice there).

I’d love to do it as an article but realize not everyone is into sharing — so this would all be one email analysis with suggestions.

email – wayne@geardiary.com

But the tips given here are useful for everyone around the world, and the personal experiences added to that make it all a lot more lively, which makes it so much more interesting.

So do Kevins blue eyes by the way, they’re so blue!

P.S. Twitter is down again. I know it’s off-topic, I normally wouldn’t post it here, but hey – I can’t post it on Twitter so I have to go somewhere.

And since I know that every experience is different, and mine is certainly not the norm, that’s why the next installment will mainly be a lot of gathered experiences from our readers.

You have a lot of “well I ignored the conventional online dating wisdom and it didn’t affect my search” yet I’m not sure how well ignoring conventional wisdom would have worked if you’d met 5 – 10 or 20 people (not uncommon at all for online) – especially given that it seems like a 3 hour drive to get to a nearby city/suburb in your area is not uncommon.

Believe me if you were to get into the active online dating mode where you have first meets with lots of people – I think you’d be much more into coffee meets than dinner out. There are a lot of problems with these lengthy dinner first meets – not the least of which they are both time consuming and expensive for a meeting which statistically usually doesn’t work out.

Anyone who ventures into the online dating world should think about reading about the actual experiences of others before starting up their own adventure.

A good resource is iVillage:

http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-rlcyber

Plenty of Fish is also free and has a very active message board – though I don’t think they’re as serious an online dating service (it’s free so you’ll probably find a lot of casual lookers there)