One tiny problem. He's in Finland, I'm in the US. Imagine convincing family and friends that your internet relationship over that kind of distance is real. Even today, so many friends aren't even willing to locate to another state! And they wonder why they're single, with all their criteria that means nothing in a real marriage.

The way the cards fell, it made more sense for me to make the move, but a move back to the US may be in the cards some time. After waiting so long to be together, the country we pick is small potatoes. The rule is that we both have veto power. We have the entire EU and the US that we can more or less easily move around in, it's no big thing.

We've been married for 11 years, so the internet relationship thing worked out for us. You are so right about having to be honest though. If you put on that mask, you may as well be just creative writing to a stranger, for all the good it'll do a potential relationship.